From the Perspective of an OFW Child

Kadalasan, ang nababasa lang natin ay yung mga kwento ng OFW. Ang saya, hirap, pagsasakripisyo nila para sa kanilang mga mahal sa buhay na naiwan sa Pilipinas. Naitanong na ba natin sa sarili natin kung ano nga ba ang pinagdaraanan ng mga taong naiwan natin?

Ang susunod na liham ay galing sa isang anak ng OFW. Kwento ng isang anak na iniwan ng kanyang nanay para sa kanilang kinabukasan.

Charlie, I’m writing my moment if you don’t mind.

My mom left us at a very young age in search for a better future for our family. It was both my parent’s decision for my mom to leave the country. I was barely in kindergarten and my two younger brothers in pre-school. Surely my mom never failed to send us money and barely remembers the long distance calls made from pldt somewhere along session road.

So, we grew up without a mom and barely a dad. We only saw him for the weekends. He was a cop. My grandma basically raised us but eventually we were with our dad. My mom finally came home after 7 yrs. from the states and by then my dad and my mom divorced and my dad remarried. Our step-mom was and is very nice and she loved us kids. We were greatful for her and then we have to meet our mom for the very first time. It was ackward at first but we finally warmed up to her. She is our mom after all.

We came to the states eventually leaving our dad behind not knowing that it would be the last time we’ll see him alive.

I don’t know if what they did was the right decision? Like I said earlier, i’d rather be poor with my family intact than with but without both my parents.

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Lcm, that was a long time ago but it felt like it was only yesterday. I still have a feeling of reservations toward my mom. So with all that happened, shouldn’t our mom make up for lost time? I didn’t felt that. Isn’t it that moms should prioritize us? When we came to the states she had us for three to four years because we all graduated high school. We barely knew our mom and she barely knew us. I went to college and work at the same time and my younger brother went to the army and our youngest left home to be on his own after highshool.

Looking back, ourlives are kinda ruin because of that for, “for future’s sake“. I’m not disrespecting you lcm for what you do but from the perspective of an ofw child, it’s completely different.

My mom is a nurse and my dad a cop. They couldve raised us the best they could with thier salary. Our family was divided, lost a dad and a brother in the process. That’s the price we had to pay lcm.

It’s tough being away from your family and I could honestly say that because I’ve experienced it first hand. I am ok Charlie just remembering the past that’s all.

Thanks for listening.

At ang huling nasabi nya sa akin, ” i have to go to a school meeting“..,school ng anak nya.

OFW na ngayon sya, kasama ang kanyang anak, sabay nilang pinagsusumikapang manatiling buo ang kanilang pamilya.

Nanay ka man o Tatay, may epekto pa rin sa mga anak mo ang malayo sila sayo.

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Comments

  1. YanaH says

    isa yan tlga sa disadvantages ng paglayo ng isang magulang sa kanyang mga anak para maitaguyod ang pamilya..maaring nabigyan ng kaalwanan ang buhay pero kapalit nito ang nasira/nagkawatak-watak na pamilya. nakakarelate ako sa nagsulat ng liham na yan sayo..kasi ganyan din ako nun.. nangibang bansa din ang nanay ko para nga daw saakin.. at that time my nagttrabaho na bilang isang f&B manager sa isang hotel ang tatay ko.. epro for my mother it wasnt enough kaya umalis siya… ang resulta? kahit na isang bagay wala kaming pinagkasunduan ng nanay ko.. kahit ni isang bagay tungkol sa isa't-isa wala kaming alam….for a while naging maalwan ang buhay ko.. wala sya.. wala ring tatay.. hang sa ngaun, wala kaming pinagkasunduan.. we were both strangers to each other. sad but true..
    honestly, nakapagpaluha asken ung entry mo.. reading that letter's like reliving my past…
    so much for that.. tama na gna.. ang haba na

  2. Lord CM says

    @yanah…
    Blog mo to?! lolzz nagkwento na eh 😀

    Seryoso, ang dami kong natututunan sa mga nakaraan ng mga nakakausap ko, Forum, comments, blog, FB, etc…at madalas nangingilid ang luha 🙂

  3. YanaH says

    kebz mo?! na-carried away eh hahaha

    eh kase naman diba? tlgang dun tayo natututo.. mula sa sariling eksperyens ng iba.. may napupulot tayong aral sa bahay…iba-iba mang kwento nila, malayo man sa mga pinaniniwalaan natin… kahit papano may mga kapirasaong bagay na mapupulot tayo and eventually maggamit din natin sa sariling buhay natin..

  4. Mr. Thoughtskoto says

    recently mukhang naging masyadong seryoso dito sa Dungeon, malaman, at nakakaantig sa puso ang mga posts. Why LordCM? Perhaps, doing a Dungeon PEBA Primer? Tara na, lets work on the criterias for the categories for the bigger plans that will benefit KABLOGS supporters! hehe

  5. Yellow Bells says

    kaya nga ayaw ko rin ipauwi ang mga anak ko sa Pinas, kahit nahihirapan kmi dito sa Dubai lcm, dto na lng muna kami basta magkakasama.

  6. BlogusVox says

    Kung tutuosin, mas malaki ang maiipon ko pag nasa pinas ang mag-ina ko. Pero aanhin ko naman ang mas palaking ipon? E hindi naman nabibili nyan ang lunas ng pangungulila at sayang naidudulot sayo ng pamilya.

  7. modernonglapis says

    agree with writer. laki din ako wala both parents, hindi ko na sila nakasundo o nakabond man lang.di rin nila alam interest ko. magiging mayaman nga sa pera, mahirap naman sa pamilya..

    😉

  8. BatangGala says

    nakakareleyt din po ako dito, in some ways. kasi, siguro, magkaiba nga ang perspective ng mga parents na ofw, at mga anak nila. kasi sa parents, iniisip po nila ang kinabukasan ng mga anak nila at ang magiging buhay nila, while for us kids, all we need is our parents, yung presence nila, at ang pagmamahal na ipapadama, hindi sa pamamagitan ng perang ipinapadala. pero siguro, ganun po talaga, merong mga bagay na may kapalit, at minsan nakakasakit. tamang balanse lang po siguro ang kelangan.

  9. Francesca says

    i left my children for five years ng mag tnt ako sa france. But I communicate with them, kahit mahal ang phonecalls.In the end, ako pinili nila to stay with ngmaghiwalay(annulment) kami ng papa nila.
    Kasi, mas malapit ako sa puso nila, kahit malayo ako sa mata nila.
    Its the care that counts, not the distance.

  10. Ishmael Fischer Ahab says

    Naalala ko tuloy yung isa kong friend. Kakakaalis lang ng mom n'ya last last Sunday.

    Grabe ang iyak niya pero alam niya na kailangan gawin ng mom n'ya yung pagpunta sa Hongkong para sa ikabubuti nila.

    Haaay…buhay talaga.

  11. am laurente says

    hello sa inyo!
    nakakaantig ng damdamin yung letter at ang gaganda ng insight ninyo..
    im doing a mothers day special for OFW mothers baka po pwedeng makuha mga contact info ninyo(writer,letter sender and YanaH, modernonglapis, BatangGala) para maging case study..
    salamat.
    laurente.amc@gmail.com
    -am (reel time researcher)

    • LordCM says

      Hello am laurente,

      kinalulungkot ko po na baka hindi na nila mabasa ang comment mo, kasi po 2010 pa ang blogpost na ito, at wala na rin akong contact sa mga commentator, sa letter sender meron, pero im not sure kung papayag syang ibigay ko sa inyo ang contact details nya…im sorry po, at thanks sa pagdalaw 🙂

  12. am laurente says

    salamat sa mabilis na pagtugon..
    baka maaaring ipadaan ko sayo yung intensyon namin na gawin siyang case study tapos kung pinahintulutan ka niyang ibigay yung contact details niya tsaka mo ibigay. salamat

  13. says

    marami na kaming tinanggihang opportunities abroad, mainly because we wanted our family under one roof while they are still minor. 18 na sila, sige, lumarga sila. pero mukhang ayaw eh. magtitiis daw sila sa hirap basta magkakasama kami. 😉 kya pag may opp abroad, take 5 dapat. 🙂

  14. am laurente says

    salamat sa mabilis na pagtugon.
    baka naman pwedeng padaanin sa inyo yung intensiyon namin na gawin siyang case study tapos kapag nagpaunlak siya tsaka mo ibigay yung contact details niya.
    sana pumayag siya mas maraming magulang at anak ang matutulungan niya pagnagkataon.
    salamat.

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